The 5 Success Myths That Blocks Success

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Do you want to be successful in life?

Of course you do, who wouldn't right? But why then are you not successful? The simplest and most overlooked answer is the mental blocks that people have about success. Most people think that they are not successful because of a physical obstacle that they have yet to overcome. But in reality, the reason most people are not successful because of mental obstacles. Wrong ideas that they think are what they need to be successful.

I'd like to share the 5 myths that blocks success that Bro. Bo Sanchez shared in his WealthStrategies. See if you can identify with some of them.

Myth #1: I'm not successful because I haven't unlocked the profound mystery yet.

A lot of people think that success is some sort of mystery that they need to unlock. A secret that is hidden to everyone, except for a few lucky people who have discovered its hiding place and is now using that formula to achieve their own success.

The truth though is that success is just a simple pattern. To be successful you just need to do simple activities over and over again. Like finding a mentor, aligning your passion with your potential, having a never quit attitude and so on. These are just simple activities that everyone can actually do. Success is not a complex formula that needs to be solved. It is just a matter of doing certain but simple activities over and over again.

Myth #2: I'm not successful because I'm just not lucky enough.

Most people think that you also need to be lucky to be successful in life. To be at the right place at the right time or to say and do the right things at the right moment.

Yes, luck plays a big part in people's success. But luck here is actually just the offspring of preparedness and opportunity. People who are considered lucky to have a great opportunity come to them are actually just prepared to take advantage of it. They are lucky because they are prepared to receive and take advantage of the opportunity (to read more about luck click here).

Myth #3: I'm not successful because I'm waiting for my big break.

A lot of people think that success is an event that will happen in their lives. One big event that will change their fortunes and current status and sky rocket them all the way to the top.

The truth though is that success is a journey, a very long journey. It won't happen overnight. One big break won't suddenly sky rocket you to success. You need to undergo a long journey full of ups and downs, mostly downs, to reach success. Writing a book, building a company, or managing a big project for your company won't automatically bolt you to success. They are just part of your journey to success.

Myth #4: I'm not successful because I don't know anybody.

People think that you need to know the right person in order to be successful. The person who can pull the strings to help you get promoted or the person who has the know it all to help get your start-up business off the ground.

Yes it is important to know someone who can help you and guide you. But these people won't just magically appear to help you and guide you. You'll need to look for them yourself. One way to do it is to attend seminars or conferences about your chosen career or business. Then interact with the people there, don't just focus on the topics to be discussed or the food or the souvenirs to be given away. Use that event to network as well. Get to know people and pretty soon you'll find someone who can be your mentor as well.

Myth #5: I'm not successful because I don't have enough money to expand fast enough.

One of the things that most entrepreneurs, and to some extent, employees think they need to succeed is to have enough money to expand their business fast or to develop their skills and talents. 

The truth though is that, having money to expand fast is, more often than not, a bad idea for entrepreneurs, especially new ones. Because having money, usually makes the entrepreneur lazy. Instead of doing research, experimenting and studying thoroughly, they are more likely to fire the gun quickly because they have the cash to do so. And those who spend money without the due diligence, just ends up losing it. Instead expand gradually and deliberately. It's your experience and knowledge that will help you succeed and not the money that you have right now.

For employees on the other hand, yes developing your skills and talents as fast as you can is important to achieve success. However, having enough money won't necessarily translate in you using them to develop your skills and talents. On the contrary, most employees, who have extra money, use it for leisure activities and luxury items instead of developing and expanding their talents. Why? It's because it's more fun and entertaining to do it, than to spend all day in a conference room listening to other people talk. It is more appealing to go to the beach than to learn something new. The missing link here would be the mental drive to be successful. Without it, you won't find developing yourself appealing as compared to relaxing in the beach.

These are just 5 of the many myths that people have about success. Once you get rid of these mental blocks, you are more likely to achieve the success that you have been dreaming of.

Be Awesome

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Have you ever been to a store or establishment where the employees there are not very accommodating? They aren't smiling, they're not approaching you, they're just talking to their co-workers and when you call for them they point finger as to who should be entertaining you? Then after buying their product, you realize that you bought something that isn't even worth near what you paid for it.

That kind of store or business comprises 10% of businesses all over the world. You can classify them under the Awful Business.

How about a store or business where everybody's pleasant. The nearest employee approaches you and ask if you need any assistance? Then assists you in any way they can or waits for you to ask or inquire about something while you check out their wares? Then thanks you after and you can see that the product you bought is of good quality.

You can classify that under Average Business, where it comprises 80% of businesses all over the world.

Then there are stores that as you enter their establishment, employees there happily approach you and greet you with a smile. They already anticipate what you will be asking or inquiring about so they guide you to it and tell you what you need and want to know. They do more than what is asked from them, always going the extra mile just to serve you and make sure you have a very wonderful experience.Then after purchasing the product, you feel more than satisfied and see that what you got is worth more than what you paid for.

These businesses are the Awesome Business, and they comprise 10% of businesses all over the world.

Among the three (3) categories, which business or employee (if you are employed) will succeed the most? Of course it's the Awesome one.

Friends, one secret to a successful career or business is to be awesome. To provide exceptional service and do more than what is asked or required of you. By being awesome, you will stand out in a good way. People will remember you and they will like you. If they like you, they are more than likely to go out of their way to come and get you or visit your store again.

No one likes awful and average are a dime a dozen. So for you to stand out, you need to be awesome.

Always Stay Humble

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Achieving success is one thing. Maintaining that success is another.

Achieving success is not an easy thing to do, just ask successful people. They'll tell you the hardships and failures that they have to experience and endure first before getting to where they are now. The countless sacrifice that they have to make just so they could succeed is enough to scare most people from achieving their own success.

Maintaining that success though is even harder. Just ask champion athletes or teams how hard it is to repeat winning the championship. Every opponent you face will give you their very best because you are the defending champ. Overcoming and beating you or your team is one of the most important goal for most of the opponents you'll face.

One thing that can help you maintain your success is to always remain humble.

It's important that you never lose your humility, especially after you have achieved success. Why? It's because when you lose your humility and become proud, you tend to be more daring. You feel as if you'll succeed at anything that you do because of the confidence you gained through succeeding. You lose the ability to be critical and logical because of your pride.

Once pride takes over, greed and danger immediately follows. And once the three-headed monster appears, our ability to discern and be critical when it comes to investing, taking on a new project or starting a business becomes cloudy. 

We are successful so whatever we do we will succeed because we now know everything. 

This is a wrong assumption. On the contrary, we are more likely to fail if we think like this. That's there are those who we call "one-hit wonders." They are successful but they have a hard time duplicating that success because they let it get to their heads.

Friends, remember to always be humble. Don't let your success get to your head. Remember that the success you achieve is because of God's grace and blessing, because of your hard work, determination and commitment and because of the help and support of the people around you.

If you do this, you will not only remain successful, but also increase it.

Pain Comes From Real Success

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Have you ever experienced pain in life?

I have, countless times already. Yes it hurts, it's depressing, I felt awful and so on. But what can I do, it already happened. The best thing I can do is to learn from it and move forward. Of course that's easier said than done, but it is what it is.

But you know what that pain does? Pain is actually what will drive you to succeed.

Friends real success needs to have a reason, and more often than not pain is what drives people to succeed in life. Most people are driven to succeed so that they won't have to experience again the grief that the pain has brought them.

Not all pain though is a good driver for success. Others experience what we call the pain of greed. People who experience this pain work hard so that they can satisfy their own selfish desire. The problem with this kind of pain is that people who achieve success through this pain are usually unhappy.

So what kind of pain that can drive you to succeed and still provide happiness? The pain of giving

Giving is one of the most important lesson that Jesus taught us (He gave His life to save us from sin). Giving though is not something that is easy to do for most people, that's why it's also considered a pain. When you give, you sacrifice yourself so that others may benefit and it's not that easy to do. Unconditional love is required for you to really give without expecting anything in return.

The good thing about the pain of giving is that it will really drive you to succeed so that you can give more. You'll experience real success because it has a reason and that reason is love. You want to succeed in order to give because you love.

Remember that real success comes from experiencing pain. And the best pain to experience for you to succeed is the pain of giving.